Why Valentine’s Day Is the Perfect Time to Choose You

February invites us into conversations about love — but not all love stories feel sweet this time of year.

For some, Valentine’s Day brings joy and connection. For others, it brings grief, loss, loneliness, or reminders of what once was. And for many women I coach, it brings pressure — pressure to perform, to give, to hold everything together for everyone else.

But what if this month became an invitation to rewrite the narrative?

What if Valentine’s Day became a reminder that self-love is not selfish — it’s essential?

Being Your Own Valentine Is an Act of Healing

There’s a cultural belief that caring for ourselves is indulgent or self-centered — that if we’re not exhausted, overwhelmed, or “pushing through,” something must be wrong.

But that belief is backwards.

Practicing self-love is one of the most selfless things you can do — because when your cup is full, your body feels safe. And when your body feels safe, it can heal.

As Miley Cyrus said it best: “I can buy myself flowers.”

And she’s right.

Being your own Valentine doesn’t mean you don’t desire connection — it means you start with yourself.

One Powerful Way to Show Yourself Love: Red Light Sauna Therapy

One of the most nurturing ways to support your body — especially during seasons of stress, transition, and hormonal change — is red light sauna therapy.

Beyond relaxation, research consistently shows that regular sauna use is associated with powerful health benefits:

Sauna Use 2–3 Times Per Week Is Associated With:

• Lower risk of sudden cardiac death

• 27% lower risk of cardiovascular disease

• 27% lower risk of coronary heart disease–related death

• 20% lower risk of Alzheimer’s disease

• 22% lower risk of developing dementia

• 19% lower risk of developing psychosis

• 24% lower risk of death from all causes

Sauna Use 4–7 Times Per Week Is Associated With:

• 50% lower risk of cardiovascular disease–related death

• 40% lower risk of coronary heart disease

• 66% lower risk of dementia

• 65% lower risk of Alzheimer’s disease

• 77% lower risk of psychosis

Your body responds deeply to environments that support circulation, detoxification, nervous system regulation, and cellular repair. Red light sauna therapy is not just relaxation — it’s a signal of safety to your cells.

And your cells are always listening.

Why This Matters So Much for Women in Midlife

After coaching thousands of women, I see this pattern repeatedly — especially in perimenopause and menopause.

There comes a point when your body simply refuses to keep overriding its own needs.

Many women experience:

• Cortisol dysregulation

• Blood sugar instability

• Stubborn belly fat

• Worsening menopause symptoms

• Exhaustion that no amount of willpower can fix

This isn’t failure.

This is wisdom.

Your body reaches a stage where it says: “I will not carry this alone anymore.”

And the answer isn’t doing more — it’s softening, slowing down, and learning how to support yourself.

The Most Overlooked Practice of Self-Love: Hugging Yourself

One of the most powerful tools I teach in my coaching is something incredibly simple — and often emotional.

Hugging yourself.

When was the last time you physically supported yourself with compassion?

Here’s how:

• Cross your arms

• Hold each elbow with the opposite hand

• Take a slow breath

• Say what you’ve been longing to hear:

  • “Everything will be okay.”

  • “I’ve got you.”

  • “I love you.”

  • “You are safe.”

This practice helps regulate stress, calm overwhelm, and restore a sense of internal safety. And when safety returns, healing follows.

I’ve seen it shift digestion, bloating, emotional regulation, and even how women relate to their bodies.

When Your Cup Is Full, Everything Changes

When you stop waiting for love to come from outside of you — from a partner, family, or circumstances — and begin offering it inward, something profound happens.

Your nervous system settles.

Your body feels supported.

Your energy changes.

And suddenly, you have more love to give — without depletion.

Valentine’s Mont at the Wae Clinic: A Gift to Your Body and Heart

This February, the Wae Clinic is offering beautiful Valentine spa packages designed to support detoxification, relaxation, and restoration — including red light sauna experiences that nourish your body at a cellular level.

Whether you’re celebrating with someone you love or choosing to honor yourself, this is an opportunity to turn Valentine’s Day into a ritual of self-respect.

My Valentine’s Challenge to You

Yes — buy yourself flowers.

Yes — book the sauna and spa.

But I challenge you to go deeper.

Practice being your own Valentine.

Start with a hug.

Start with kindness.

Start with slowing down.

Because loving yourself isn’t indulgent — it’s how healing begins.

And you are absolutely worthy of it.